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    'See what you've done to my daughter'

    By Yahoo! Newsroom | Yahoo! Newsroom – Thu, Oct 20, 2011

    Drama unfolded on Friday night at the wake of a mother and son whose dead bodies were found floating face down in Bedok Reservoir, as angry family members tried to accost the woman's estranged husband.

    Tan Sze Sze, 32, and her three-year-old son, Jerald Chin, were found dead on Thursday morning at Bedok Reservoir by PUB officers, after the mother and son were reported as missing two days ago.

    Tan's husband Willy Chin arrived at 8.45pm to pay his respects when a large crowd of angry family members rushed in his direction.

    According to The Straits Times, the 33-year-old tried to escape in his van but Tan's mother and younger sister had blocked the vehicle, forced the door open and tried to pull him out, all the while shouting vulgarities at him.

    His mother-in-law, Teo Guek Lai, confronted him and shouted in Mandarin: "Come and see what you've done to my daughter!"

    Chin's van eventually managed to leave after 10 minutes, but it was only after struggling with family members as they continuously tried to block the vehicle and chase after it.

    The drama however, did not end at the wake.

    A group of Tan's family members, who included Tan's mother and sister, went to his house to confront him, and they created a scene when they could not get to him.

    Police later arrested the sister's husband when he refused to leave.

    Teo told reporters that her daughter was upset and scared that her son would be taken from her. In a custody battle with her estranged husband, she was previously fined for not allowing Chin to see Jerald.

    "Her son was her life," said Teo, to whom Tan revealed her suicide plans on the day she went missing.

    Telling his side of the story, Chin said that when police first told him about his wife and son, he was at a total loss.

    The restaurant chef said that all he wanted was to see his son, but attempts to visit him every weekend were in vain. The last time he saw Jerald was in February for half an hour.

    "I didn't do anything wrong. From start to finish, I just wanted to see my son. If she had just allowed me to take my son out on weekends, I wouldn't have had to pressure her by going to court," Chin said to ST.

    Tan was found cradling her son, with their wrists joined together with red string. They were wearing red T-shirts and their fingernails were painted red, a customary Chinese symbol of revenge after death.

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    • K H
      K H  •  7 months ago
      Tragic!! We must take things in life easier, dun be hard on yourselves and everybody else.
    • harryho
      harryho  •  7 months ago
      MY DEEPEST CONDOLENCE TO THE DECEASED FAMILIES. MAY MOTHER AND CHILD REST IN PEACE.
      • Eng
        Eng 7 months ago
        Can they rest in peace ? Mother and child were dressed in red, finger nails painted red and shoes were in red.Message from the dead woman is REVENGE !
      • Remington
        Remington 7 months ago
        what revenge? the mother will go tohell while the son will go to heaven. it seems suicide is a favorite thing among desperate folks in singapore
      • bla bla bla
        bla bla bla 7 months ago
        @Eng.. i dun see the husband do anything wrong? soo what revenge?
        "I didn't do anything wrong. From start to finish, I just wanted to see my son. If she had just allowed me to take my son out on weekends, I wouldn't have had to pressure her by going to court," Chin said to ST.
    • Sg man
      Sg man  •  7 months ago
      What a tragic...its really unfair to the kids...The mum is highly under depression...the family's should spend more time counsel...when things happened...they start to cry,blame here and there...those sister husband or whoever non related people start to act like hero...well let the justice to decide...Let the victims to rest in peace...I dont think the husband will be happy...u can see how care he was when he really take the intiative to visit the son every sunday...
    • A Yahoo! User  •  7 months ago
      Pity her former husband, who married this woman. See the drama their family member create when her former husband want to offer the last prayer.
    • Lin Lan Lon
      Lin Lan Lon  •  7 months ago
      watever her blardy reason was.. she shld not get her son involved..!! the boy is innocent!! so sad for the boy..
    • Stewart
      Stewart  •  7 months ago
      My condolences to the family. However, if Willy's side of the story is to be believed, then I think we should all give the guy a break. If the woman's family is grief-stricken, then imagine how much more Willy must be. Here he was trying to gain access to his child just for the weekends, and now he will never be able to see him again. Ever.

      Relationships between men and women break down all the time. Yes, sometimes it gets ugly and yes, probably more often than not, the man is at fault. (I don't have the statistics, so I don't know for sure) But in most cases, I believe that, if children are involved, the 2 parties try their very best to make sure the kids do not suffer, and that the other party is somehow involved in the children's upbringing and life. Unless of course the other party is a danger to the children. In most cases, however, it is my opinion that emotionally unstable women are the biggest danger to the children and themselves.

      I think its extremely childish and selfish for 1 parent to deny the other access to the children out of spite. This also extends to poisoning the children's minds against the other parent. Women like to do this. A lot. In the short term, you may achieve your short-term goals and successfully deny the other party access to the child, or successfully convince the child to hate the other parent. But what are the long-term effects? What happens when the child eventually grows up and sees you for who you really are?

      Whatever the case, murdering the child is the most extreme way to express this denial of access. Committing suicide after the fact is actually an acknowledgement that you're in the wrong, but do not have the courage to face it.

      While I sympathize with the husband and family for the loss of life, I cannot agree with Ms. Tan's or her family's sentiments about the reasons behind her death.
      • Arethey
        Arethey 7 months ago
        Suffer the children who are involved in divorces and yet today divorce is such a commonly used term. Fortunately for a friend of mine, she and the then husband agreed that they would not discuss matters on the divorce in front of the child or quarrel in front of the child. Closer to the date when the divorce papers were finalised, they calmly explained to the child why the parents were going separate ways. Though the couple have separated, the father still has a part in the life of the child. I always respect my friend for the fact that the couple did everything for the sake of the child. That's what grown people should do.
      • lsvop
        lsvop 7 months ago
        For Ms Tan's family, they are looking for someone to blame. Its hard to blame oneself or one's daughter as their defence mechanism won't allow it. They just need to ventilate.
    • Patrick Lee Song Juan
      Patrick Lee Song Juan  •  7 months ago
      It is a real sad family tragedy !..The children are those who suffer the most, innocent and helpless. Every family has a story to tell. Tell it good and well or tell it in divorce and in worst scenario in death and suicide. It is that morbid...Where are the family counsellors ??
      • enoughisenough
        enoughisenough 7 months ago
        If the mother did not seek help at any family service centres no one will know about it. Many tragedies happen because ppl do not want to seek help or dunno where to seek help. So you cannot blame counselors for it cos they do not know the case at all.
      • Sux
        Sux 7 months ago
        the mother need help urgently and what she neee was help from professional psychiatrist for depression. she didnt do it, and it takes away their lives
      • hanAI
        hanAI 7 months ago
        True! But I think that family members and friends need to be sensitive to the signs or the little changes in their love ones. Sometimes these are trouble signs for professional help. I was once in the dilemma of not knowin what's happenin to me, until I was brought to a psychiatrist when my family could take no longer. And that was what prevented me from goin down the suicide route. I have a friend who went to a psychiatrist too, but only when persuaded to do so. Sometimes I think it is up to us to give them a push when at loss.
    • Eric
      Eric  •  7 months ago
      Guys or gals out there already marry or attached. Keep urself from astray. Be faithful to your spouse.
    • white rick
      white rick  •  7 months ago
      It is a real sad story!
      Can this kind of case be prevented in our society?
      My "Deepest Condolences" to those who mourned for the lost.
    • naing
      naing  •  7 months ago
      If her mother knew that her daughter was going to commit suicide, why didn't she stop her or call for help?
      Her daughter was staying all along with her, she must have noticed the behaviours, why didn't she do something about it?
      The deceased's family members are hughely responsible for her and her son's death.
      I am not sure what the husband did to her resulting in her depression but at least what family members can do is preventing this tradedy.
      May the mother and son rest in peace.
    • malsyam
      malsyam  •  7 months ago
      What we don't understand is that we only have our children for a while. Many become barely recognisable strangers when they grow older. This woman should've just enjoyed her child while he was still young. Allowing the father access is a right and not HER privilege to choose to give him.

      She poured all her hatred she had against her husband by doing this. Children are not pawns to be bartered with.
    • Asteroid
      Asteroid  •  7 months ago
      Hope this tragedy help to Wake-Up those law-maker in Women Charter. When the father cannot see his son, who will understand His devastated feeling ? So he enforce and the court ONLY fine the mummy. But the problem does not resolved. Vice versa, the devastated feeling of the mummy to lose her son, who will understand ? But this is not the case that mummy losing her son but just only once a week Access for the Daddy.

      Law-Maker thought they are protecting the interest of the Vulnerable one of Woman and Children. A legal processs to apply or enforce to see their children take months. During this period, who will understand the Daddy's feeling for not able to see their Biological Children for months ??? Who will understand the feeling for the Children not able to see their Biological Father for months ???

      However, may the victims in this case rest in peace now and those alive continue to be victim of the Woman Charter. Sigh....
      • AH POH
        AH POH 7 months ago
        REPORTED THAT THE HUBBY IS HAVING A AFFAIR !
        SHE MUST BE HURT BADLY
    • it'sok
      it'sok  •  7 months ago
      like all things, it takes 2 hands 2 clap...so i think both parents are to be blamed
    • long zong siao eh
      long zong siao eh  •  7 months ago
      this suicide murder thing seems like a cold blooded and calculated move. to inflict maximum hurt on the one you hate, is not by killing that person. instead, let that person live in pain and guilt for the rest of his life. come back and haunt the person? no need, this is already revenge taken.
    • it'sok
      it'sok  •  7 months ago
      this will not be the last case .........
    • see
      see  •  7 months ago
      When both parties fallen apart, dun involve the children.... they are the most innocent... Leave the children to your parent, brothers or sisters to take care!
    • Jeffrey Peter
      Jeffrey Peter  •  7 months ago
      Rest in peace.
    • LimMilk
      LimMilk  •  7 months ago
      Revenge is a never ending cycle.... let it stop now and let them rest in peace...
    • ken
      ken  •  7 months ago
      Nobody know who is right or wrong unless u urself is in the situation.. Most innocent is the poor Boy..
    • lsvop
      lsvop  •  7 months ago
      So moral of the story. Always allow the other party access to the children.
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