A Dictionary Of All The Annoying Dating Trends Modern Singles Deal With

It’s rough out there forsingles. Not only do you have to sit through date after date with disappointing Tinder matches, there’s a whole new lexicon of dating terminology to keep up with.

Below is a by-no-means-exhaustive list of all the annoying dating trends modern singles have to deal with every day. 

Algorithms:The mathematical models most dating apps use to predict compatibility among users. A2017 dating studysuggested that the algorithms companies like Match.com and OkCupid use for finding good matches don’t really work ― though theydoexpose users to more singles, allowing them to cast a wider net. May the odds be ever in your favor. 

Example: I have analgorithmto thank for my last crummy boyfriend. Now I’m much more open to my grandma’s matchmaking skills.

Backburner relationshipA lingering, platonic (but flirty) relationship you maintain with someone ― usually an ex ― just in case your current relationship doesn’t work out. 

Example: Lisa is dating Jim but has abackburner relationshipwith her ex Dylan. She comments and “likes” all of Dylan’s photos so he knows she’s still into him.

Breadcrumbing: Engaging with a prospective romantic matchjustenough to keep them on the line, usually via flirty messages. 

Example: Just when I stopped thinking about that elementary school teacher I was into, she texted me out of the blue. She’s totallybreadcrumbingme.

Catfishing:Popularized by the 2010 documentary “Catfish,” the term refers to someone who creates a fake social media profile to seduce another person, usually with the intention to scam them.

Example: Jane was in a long-term online relationship with a guy who claimed to be an investment banker from New York, but he was actually a teenager from Nigeria. He was catfishingher the whole time.

DMs:Direct or private messages on social media apps like Instagram and Tinder. To “slide into someone’s DMs” usually means you’re interested in them and discreetly want to make it known. 

Example: Way to slide into that hot guy from the gym’sDMs,girl. 

Emotional affairEmotional infidelity happens when one person in a relationship gets their emotional needs met by someone else. Unlike a platonic friendship, there’s sexual chemistry between the two people engaging in the affair, even if they never consummate it physically. In a 2014Kansas State University study, two-thirds of women said they would be more hurt by amale partner’s emotional affairthan a physical one.

Example: John from accounting and Terry in management are having anemotional affair. Haven’t you heard John complaining to Terry about his marriage during happy hour?

F**kboy:A man, usually a younger one, who sleeps with people without the intention of pursuing the relationship further. 

Example:I need you to set me up with someone who wants to settle down. For some reason, I only attractf**kboys

F**k buddy: Essentially a “friends with benefits” situation. A f**k buddy is a pal you can always depend on for a hookup. 

Example: Every time Gina is in town, she hits Matt up for sex. They’ref**k buddies

Ghosting:When one dater ends a relationship by simply disappearing, without a trace or text. 

Example: I was seeing this woman and things were going great, but then sheghostedme.

Half-night stands: An abbreviated version of the one-night stand, where instead of staying the night, one person makes their exit after sex.

Example: Not to go allhalf-night standon you, but mind if I Uber back home? I’ve got an early conference call tomorrow.

Love bombing:A common tacticamong narcissists, love bombing someone means pouring on the charm, lavishing them with gifts and planning over-the-top dates only to give them the cold shoulder later. 

Example: She took you to Napa on your first date? Be careful, it sounds like she’slove bombingyou.

Monogamish:A term coined by sex columnist Dan Savageto define couples who are exploring versions of monogamy tailored to their own needs. They may, for instance, give each other permission to go outside the marriage to meet their sexual needs. 

Example: Lena and Rachel have a monogamish relationship. They’re both allowed to hook up with other people while away on business. 

Nudes: “Send nudes” is a phrase used to jokingly ― or not so jokingly ― convince someone to send naked pictures. (It rarely works.) 

Example: This guy on Tinder asked me tosend nudes, and we never messaged again.

PhubbingA word that combines phone and snubbing. To phub someone means to ignore them in favor of your phone ― a cardinal sin in any romantic relationship. 

Example: Josh spent the whole datephubbingme because he was checking the World Series score. Now Josh is single. 

Raw dogging:Sex with no condoms, which is increasingly common among singles. A 2017 national report revealed that since 2002, withdrawal ― orthe pull-out method― has nearly doubled among unmarried men. 

Example:Raw doggingis a pretty unsafe form of contraception. Be careful out there. 

Stashing: To stash someone is to almost make it official, but never introduce the other person to your family or friends. You also refuse to acknowledge them on social media. 

Example:She was seeing this guy on a regular basis, but ended it because she felt like he wasstashingher. 

Tindstagramming:When you sneak into someone’s Instagram DMs after failing to match with them on Tinder. It is creepy. 

Example: I swiped left on him on Tinder, then I received an Instagram DM from him telling me he “rarely messages people off Tinder” but that I “seemed like a pretty cool girl.” TotalTindstagrammoment. I hate being single.

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This article originally appeared on HuffPost.