Influencer goes viral after sharing text from man who didn’t pay for their first date
After revealing why she wouldn’t go on a second date with a man, an Australian influencer sparked a conversation about modern first-date etiquette.
Khristina, who has over 14 million likes on TikTok and only 1,000 followers on Instagram, has shared online what she won’t tolerate when dating.
We all know that modern dating has brought along a slew of new etiquette questions.
Do you text after the first date? When should you add each other on social media? If he only wants to commute on Snapchat, does that mean he secretly has a wife?
Khristina has made the coffee date question go viral. Should you always offer to pay for your date’s coffee?
The influencer shared a text exchange she had between her and a man she’d been on a first date with — showing he wasn’t prepared to fork out for a flat white (a common coffee order in Australia that includes espresso).
“So you’re canceling the date because I didn’t pay for your coffee on the first date?” the man asked.
“Yes,” she replied.
“Well you definitely have an attitude problem,” he wrote back.
“I don’t have an attitude problem. You have a problem with my attitude, which is not my problem,” she argued.
Khristina posted the exchange only two days ago and it has already amassed over 500,000 views on TikTok.
The influencer added that “no one should do anything they do not want” to do but that doesn’t mean she has to continue dating a guy who isn’t prepared to pay for a $5 coffee.
She argued that because he “invited” her on the date, it was “polite” for him to offer to pay and when he didn’t, she wasn’t impressed.
“I think it is a nice gesture from a man’s side. It’s just attractive,” she wrote.
The text exchange started a big conversation about money etiquette when dating.
“Why would he have to pay?” one person asked.
Almost all of the comments agreed that Khristina not bothering to go on a second date with the guy was the right move.
Plenty of people declared that offering to buy someone a coffee is “the bare minimum” and more about the gesture than the actual cost.
Someone else called the act “wild,” and another pointed out that offering to buy someone a coffee isn’t just the right thing to do on a date but the normal thing to do for friends, family or, yes, even love interests.
Another argued that a simple “gesture” tells you so much about a person and the fact he wouldn’t offer wasn’t a clear sign.
“Not paying for coffee is weak,” another complained.
“He has a problem with your standards,” someone else pointed out.
“That was a great response,” another cheered.
