Jessie J took to Instagram yesterday (24 November) to reveal the heartbreaking news that she'd miscarried. Speaking to her 10.5 million followers, the singer opened up about the experience after deciding to start a family "on her own."
In an emotional post, the 33-year-old explained how she learned of the miscarriage at her third scan when no heartbeat could be found. "This morning, I feel like I have no control of my emotions," she said. "I want to be honest and true and not hide what I’m feeling. I deserve that. I want to be as myself as I can be in this moment."
She continued: "I decided to have a baby on my own. Because it’s all I’ve ever wanted and life is short. To get pregnant was a miracle in itself and an experience I will never forget and I know I will have again."
The singer also referenced how the support of those around her, and those on social media, had already brought much-needed comfort. "Im still in shock, the sadness is overwhelming. But I know I am strong, and I know I will be ok," she wrote. "I also know millions of women all over the world have felt this pain and way worse. I feel connected to those of you I know and those of you I don’t."
Despite the connection, Jessie pointed out how her experience of miscarriage had been the "loneliest feeling in the world."
The "Bang Bang" singer shared the news ahead of a gig she was due to perform at in Los Angeles, revealing that singing would offer an opportunity to heal from her grief. "I know some people will be thinking she should just cancel it [the gig]. But in this moment I have clarity on one thing. I started singing when I was young for joy, to fill my soul and self love therapy, that hasn’t ever changed and I have to process this my way," she added.
"What I do know is that I want to sing tonight. Not because Im avoiding the grief or the process, but because I know singing tonight will help me."
In response to her honesty, friends, followers and fans of the singer flocked to the comments section to offer support. "I'm so sorry Jessie, sending loads of love" said fellow musician Pixie Lott, while someone else put: "What a brave attitude, it's so beautiful to see your love for music and life."
Sending all our love and thoughts to Jessie at this heartbreaking time.
If you're looking for support or more information about premature births, stillbirths or miscarriage, Tommy's have a free helpline 0800 0147 800 (open 9-5, Monday to Friday). There's also a Facebook group.
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