You May Relate to Cassadee Pope If You're Afraid of Abandonment Due to Childhood Trauma

Silvia Pittman
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Selfie of Cassadee Pope, a woman with shoulder-length brown hair, wearing a black and white plaid shirt
Selfie of Cassadee Pope, a woman with shoulder-length brown hair, wearing a black and white plaid shirt

The Story: Country singer Cassadee Pope is opening up about working through her mental health and childhood trauma. Pope recently released a new record titled “Rise and Shine” aimed at helping others cope with global hardship amid the COVID-19 pandemic. She shared with People Magazine that she hopes the record will help bring mental health to the forefront and offer a much-needed message of hope. The star said she struggled with her parent’s divorce at 11 and watching her father leave, leading to fear of abandonment.

Seeing my dad leave and move on to a new family really quickly was hard. I think I brought that into my life now where I have this overbearing sense of: I need to be interesting enough and good enough and funny enough and entertaining enough for people to stick around. When someone leaves, especially someone that influential to you and that important in your life, you take that with you through everything. — Cassadee Pope, People Magazine

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It’s working through that trauma Pope said taught her lessons about finding the light in the tough times and taking it as an opportunity to learn more about yourself. Pope said it’s taken a lot of work and realizing that trauma stays with you — and that naming your experiences can help you heal.

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I can't believe it. My new album #RiseandShine is finally out now! ⁣ ⁣ Back in April, I started thinking about what I could do with this abrupt down time that felt intentional and inspired. I realized I had songs that could really help people feel through whatever it is they’re going through right now and the purpose of the down time became clear: to share those songs with you all. I wanted to put something out there that will help aid you and your emotional journeys through everything we are experiencing. ❤⁣ ⁣ This project #RiseandShine is really just for you and is there for whatever you need. To cry to it, laugh to it, smile to it. As long as we’re feeling, whether it’s good or bad, we’re ALIVE! ???? Link in bio.

A post shared by Cassadee Pope (@cassadeepope) on Aug 6, 2020 at 9:44pm PDT

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The Frontlines: Childhood trauma can forever change the way you go through life and sometimes even the very chemistry of your body. Research shows it’s an experience that is all too common.

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A Mighty Voice: Our contributor, Abbi Hirschfeld, shared the impacts trauma had on her body as a child saying, “The stress from trauma presented in many different ways over the years. When I was 4, I started getting sick to my stomach all the time. I experienced panic attacks, I self-harmed throughout my childhood without really knowing what I was doing, or why. I stopped eating when I was 11, and I spent my entire adolescence in and out of treatment centers, hospitals and institutions.” You can submit your first person story, too.

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How to take action: You can listen to Pope’s new record on YouTube and get information on how you can buy it here.

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