19 Queer Celebrities Reveal How They Met Their Significant Others

19 Queer Celebrities Reveal How They Met Their Significant Others

1.When Elton John returned to his Windsor house in 1993, he decided he wanted to make some new friends. So naturally, he asked one of his pals in London if they could get a group of people together for dinner at his place. Little did he know that his future husband, David Furnish, would be in attendance.

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Elton told Parade, “I was attracted to David immediately. He was very well dressed, very shy. The next night we had dinner. After it, we consummated our relationship. We fell in love very quickly.”

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The couple was legally married in 2014 and currently have two sons together. Elton shared how they've kept their love alive all these years, saying, "Every Saturday for 16 years, we’ve sent each other a card, no matter where we are in the world, to say how much we love each other.”

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2.Mae Martin and Survivor alum Parvati Shallow met after Parvarti's sister attended one of Mae's comedy shows in LA and heard them mention that they were a fan of Survivor. So, hearing the news, Parvati revealed that she slid into Mae's DMs and the rest is queer history. The couple hard launched their relationship on Instagram at the beginning of 2024.

Pavarti, who also came out as queer in the previously mentioned Instagram post, talked to Advocate about her queer journey and divorce from fellow Survivor competitor John Fincher, saying, "Going through my divorce really shattered a bunch of paradigms for me. It made me much more open-minded in many ways and available to very new and different possibilities in my life. I'm very grateful that I've had that experience."

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She went on to say, "My journey is very different than most people who are out. [Mae and I have] been dating since March and our relationship has moved forward really beautifully. I'm super happy."

3.Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor have a mutual friend, a Twitter PSA, and Holland sliding into Sarah's DMs to thank for their love story.

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On Watch What Happens Live, Sarah explained that they first met "a very, very long time ago" when they were both with other people. However, thanks to a social media event at Martha Plimpton's house, the two were reunited.

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They were both there, doing separate PSAs for the organization Martha was working with and "breezed past each other" at the event. They started following each other on Twitter because of it, and, of course, Holland eventually slid into Sarah's DMs. They've officially been together since 2015.

4.Beanie Feldstein met her wife, producer Bonnie-Chance Roberts, on set of the 2018 movie How To Build A Girl, which Beanie starred in. Technically, the two met for the very first time on a Skype call, in which Beanie never got Bonnie's name.

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She told Vogue, "In classic Bon fashion, she hadn’t actually introduced herself, she just launched into it all...At the end of the call, I wrote in my notes: 'the producer… Brooke?'" Beanie flew out to London to audition, found out she got the part on Valentine's Day, and fell in love with Bonnie while they were filming.

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"From the moment we first kissed, we both knew we would get married and months after that, Bon had announced that when the time came, she wanted to be the one to propose to me." The couple announced their engagement in June of 2022 and tied the knot a year later in June of 2023 with a summer camp-themed wedding. Sarah Paulson — Beanie's American Crime Story co-star — was a bridesmaid in the ceremony.

5.George Takei met his husband, Brad Altman, in the '80s at a gay running club, where he asked Brad to help him train for a marathon.

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On Oprah: Where Are They Now? George explained, "He was the best runner in the club, and also great-looking. So I went up to him, and I asked him to train me for my first marathon." Thankfully he said yes, and the pair have been married since 2008.

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6.Neil Patrick Harris first met his husband David Burtka on a street corner in New York City. Neil assumed David was his friend Kate's boyfriend and congratulated her, saying, “Nicely done.” It turns out the two weren't together, but David was in a long-distance relationship with another man.

Neil and David were "always around" each other, but they didn't actually sit down and hang out for the first time until Kate threw an American Idol viewing party and invited them both. Neil explained, "I just stammered around him. I couldn’t take my eyes off him." David told Out, "I ended up breaking up with my boyfriend, and a week later, Neil and I had a date... We started hanging out every single night, and after three months, it was just nonstop."

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Years later, David proposed to Neil on the very street corner that they met on. The two have been married since 2014 and have two kids together.

7.Kristen Stewart and her fiance Dylan Meyer originally met on a movie set six years before they actually started dating. Fortunately, the two were reacquainted at a mutual friend's birthday party in 2019, and Kristen knew Dylan was the one.

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"The day that I met her, all bets were off," Kristen explained in an interview with Howard Stern. "...I hadn't seen her in six years, and she, like, rocked up at a friend's birthday party. I was like, where have you been and how have I not known you?"

The couple announced their engagement in November of 2021.

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8.Lily Tomlin originally reached out to Jane Wagner for help with her character Edith Ann in Rowan & Martin's Laugh-In, but the meet-cute turned into a case of love at first sight.

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Lily told Variety, “A friend brought her to my hotel room, and I tell you, in two minutes, I fell in love with her. She had on hot pants, stretchy boots that went up to her knee, and a little backpack. I don’t know what it was, but I was in love.” Though Lily had to leave the next day for a show in Chicago, she flew back as soon as she could to reunite with Jane, saying, “I called Jane immediately, and I said, ‘Look, I don’t have much time, but I have to see you.’ She agreed to see me, and we had our first date.”

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The two have been together and collaborated on numerous projects since the '70s, like Lily's one-woman show The Search for Signs of Intelligent Life in the Universe and The Incredible Shrinking Woman. They officially tied the knot in 2013.

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9.Chrishell Stause and G Flip started talking at a Halloween party after G Flip made the big move from Australia to LA. They were both dating other people at the time, but the pair quicky realized they had quite a lot in common.

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G Flip later personally invited Chrishell to star in their "Get Me Outta Here" music video, and the two totally hit it off on set. You can watch the music video for yourself here:

Chrishell confirmed their relationship in the Selling Sunset Season 5 reunion. They've been happily together ever since and tied the knot in May of 2023. Speaking of the secret Las Vegas wedding, G Flip told People, "It’ll forever be one of the greatest memories of my life. And we're actually planning to get married every single year. I don't know why more people don't do that. Like, it's your person that you spend like every day with. Wouldn't you wanna have a party to celebrate your life every single year? So yeah, we're gonna do it. We're so into it."

10.Jesse Tyler Ferguson likes to tell people he met his husband Justin Mikita through mutual friends, but the pair actually met in the locker room of an Equinox gym in West Hollywood.

According to Jesse, Justin recognized him from the Modern Family pilot, so Justin stopped him to ask about his character. Jesse told Variety, “I was taken by how handsome he was and how sweet... I started asking questions about him, and I think he was sort of thrown off by that and ran away from me.”

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Fear not, though, because the two did make their way back to each other after that. They kept in touch and Justin eventually asked Jesse out, but he was in a relationship at the time. Luckily, they ran into each other again when Jesse was single, and the rest is history. Jesse and Justin have been married since 2013 and have two sons together.

11.Melissa Etheridge and Linda Wallem first met when Linda was the showrunner of That '80s Show. She wanted Melissa to play a record store owner on the show, so the two met to discuss the role. While that didn't quite work out, they did become good friends.

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After Melissa and her first wife divorced, she invited Linda to live with her and her kids, just as friends. She told Variety, “We were in separate rooms, but every morning, we would get up and feed the kids and make them lunches and breakfast and take them to school."

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She went on to explain that the whole thing turned into a bit of a Parent Trap situation, in which Melissa's kids really wanted them to date. Eventually they did, and they ultimately got married in 2014.

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12.Lance Bass and Michael Turchin had a classic friends-to-lovers start to their relationship. The duo first met at a friend's birthday party in Palm Springs and soon became really good friends. They both really liked each other, but were pretty convinced the other didn't feel the same way.

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Michael told People magazine, "I am so shy and never would have made the first move. I was thinking, 'This is Lance Bass. I grew up watching him on TV and listening to his music.' That just added a whole other layer of intimidation." Michael was really good at hiding it, because Lance was totally convinced the feelings were not mutual at all. So, Lance "focused on becoming such good friends that [he] wouldn’t be able to look at [Michael] in any other way."

Thankfully, things changed about a month later when they had their first kiss. The couple got married in 2014 and have two kids together.

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13.Cynthia Nixon met her wife Christine Marinoni at a campaign event for the Alliance for Quality Education, where they were both fighting to decrease class sizes in the New York City public school system. Cynthia was in attendance as her kids were in the school system, and Christine had helped found the nonprofit organization.

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In an interview with Attitude, Cynthia — who had previously only dated men — explained, "Falling in love with my wife was one of the great delights and surprises of my life, but it didn’t seem like I became a whole new person, or like some door had been unlocked. It was like, ‘I have fallen in love with different people in my life, and they’ve all been men before. Now this is a woman, and she is amazing.’”

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The pair started dating in 2004 and have been married since 2012. They have one son together as well as two kids from Cynthia's previous marriage.

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14.RuPaul met his husband — a Wyoming-based rancher named Georges LeBar — on the dance floor of the Limelight nightclub on Georges' birthday in 1994.

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RuPaul spoke highly of Georges in an interview with BuzzFeed News, saying, "He's so kind and funny. I remember praying, 'I want a sweet, sensitive man,' and I got an Australian who's just lovely." The couple got married in 2017 on the anniversary of the day they met.

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15.Wanda Sykes first laid eyes on her wife, Alex Niedbalski, while boarding a ferry to Fire Island. She thought to herself, Wow, that’s what you need, Wanda. She told a friend the next day, who promptly informed her that she needed to start using cheesy pickup lines on the ladies instead of telling boring stories about things like remodeling her kitchen.

It turns out that friend was very wrong, because when Wanda told the next person she met about her kitchen remodeling plans, they introduced her to Alex — who, coincidentally, sold granite countertops. The pair have been married since 2008 and have two kids together.

16.Comedian Fortune Feimster and her wife Jacquelyn Smith met at a Pride parade in Chicago the day after the Supreme Court marriage equality ruling in 2015.

The pair got engaged in January of 2018 and had a small, intimate ceremony in October of 2020, during which their Pomeranian, Biggie, was the ring bearer. Jacquelyn spoke about the wedding with People, saying "I was excited. We've been together for five-and-a-half years. If you don't know who you're marrying after five-and-a-half years, then you're in trouble. So I knew it felt good, it felt right."

17.Hayley Kiyoko and Bachelor contestant Becca Tilley publicly announced their relationship in 2022, but actually met and got together way back in 2018. In an Instagram post hard-launching their four-year-long relationship, Hayley revealed that the pair met at the release party for her debut album Expectations.

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She captioned the photo, "...we took this picture after 5 minutes. Her shirt said 'no time for romance'.....it's been 4 years. I guess she had some time."

At Hayley's 2022 "For The Girls" release party in West Hollywood — hours before their Instagram hard launch — the couple made their IRL debut. Hayley brought Becca — who makes a cameo in the music video — on stage, handing her a rose Bachelor-style and kissing her.

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You can watch the music video for yourself here:

18.Good Morning America anchor Robin Roberts and her wife Amber Laign were set up on a blind dinner date by friends in 2005 and completely hit it off.

In her memoir, Everybody's Got Something, Robin revealed that Amber had no idea who she was, saying, “She rarely followed sports, so she never saw me on ESPN. Her office mates at the time watched a different morning show…ouch!" Robin came out in 2013, and the couple went public with their relationship. They tied the knot in September of 2023 after 18 years together.

19.Samira Wiley and Lauren Morelli both worked on the set of Orange Is the New Black, in which Samira played Poussey Washington and Lauren was a writer. They met to discuss Samira's character in an episode that Lauren was writing and felt an instant connection.

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Lauren was married at the time, so nothing romantic happened between the pair at first, and they became close friends. Lauren says Samira was crucial to helping her understand her sexuality during a very hard time in her life. She explained, "Samira became the person I felt safe talking to...I was so confused, and it was such a scary time that I think our romance came out of me leaning on her when it felt like my life was falling apart."

Two years later, they made their relationship official but continued to take their time. The pair decided that Lauren would propose to Samira when she was ready, and that day finally came in 2016. The couple has been happily married since 2017 and have one kid together.

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