There is no doubt that the term wedding night invokes excitement in the mind of the would-be groom and the bride. There is no denying the fact that wedding night is one of the most-awaited and magical moments of a newly-wed’s life. While you might have many fantasies about your first night, there are bound to be some inhibitions too. Here are some tips to help make your first night nothing but perfect for both of you.
We have divided this article into three sections. In the first you will find some tips on how to prepare for the process, which will help you to get over your anxiety regarding your 'first night'. The second section focuses on some tips to make your first night memorable. And, the third section focuses on points regarding some do's and dont's of physical intimacy. So, here is everything you need to know to make your first night memorable.
Preparing for your first night
First night is ought to be special for the couple who must have dreamt of it a hundred times before their wedding. Hence, to make it a perfect one, we give you some tips on how to handle the anxiety related to the much-hyped first night.
#1. Do not fantasise
It is amazing how movies and novels condition our minds, when it comes to romance. A girl fantasises a Bollywood-style romance from her man while a man fantasises his wife to be a mix of Angelina Jolie and Katrina Kaif.
We suggest you to better get realistic rather than living in a fantasy world. A few daydreams are okay, but do not get caught up in them.
If you are having an arranged marriage, speak of your fears and fantasies to your spouse before your wedding. Even if you are having a love marriage, communication is the key to any relationship.
Be clear of your expectations from your partner. Also, it is better to talk about family planning and the use of contraceptive before you marry your partner.
#3. Next day free
It is advisable that you do not have tight plans (like a puja or an early flight) on the morning next to your wedding night. If your first night happens to be on your honeymoon, then we suggest you not to keep any adventurous activity the next morning after your first night.
We are sure that getting up early the next day would be the last thing on your mind. So make sure to have the next day free for yourself. Do not mess things up.
3 Tips to make your first night memorable
Finally the moment has come. You are married and done with all the rituals. So, as you now get ready to enjoy your private moments with your beloved, we give you some tips on how you can make it even more memorable.
#1. A surprise gift
A surprise gift for your spouse on your first night is a brilliant idea. Gift him/her something romantic.
It can be a poem that you wrote, a bunch of roses, a Kamasutra book, or a romantic gift basket. Such gifts will surely please your partner.
Ladies if you too are planning to gift your husband something special on your first night, here are some interesting ideas: Best Wedding Night Gifts for Your Husband
#2. Talk for a while
Since it is your first night, it is better to avoid jumping straight into the act once you two are alone in your bedroom. Even if you have known each other for years, it is always better to first build an emotional connect with your partner.
A small phrase like, “thanks for being my better half” can do wonders too. Expressing your gratitude for having him/her as your spouse on your wedding night is even more wonderful. The rest will automatically follow.
#3. A slow start
Start slowly by cuddling and kissing your sweetheart. You can feed each other during the foreplay. Share a bit of chocolate or a fruit. This magical night is all about showing your love and building up your affection.
Tell your partner how long you have waited for this moment; express your passion with your romantic gestures.
Also Read: 5 Naughty Ideas for a Great Wedding Night
6 rules for physical intimacy
Sex is one of the most important ways to express your love for your partner. However, there are a few points that you must keep in mind before getting into it.
#1. Virginity issues
Physical intimacy can be a little fearful for virgins. If you are a girl, do not be scared of bleeding, pain, etc. Most of the times these things are very mild and do not last long. Make sure you are well-lubricated before you let him in. Talk to your married friends or a gynaecologist to get a better perspective on the issue.
For the guys, we suggest you to make sure that you indulge into a lot of foreplay. It can be extremely tempting to rush into the act, but do not do so. Make sure that both of you have a comfortable and amazing experience.
#2. Getting self-conscious
Do not get conscious of your extra ounce of weight or your dark inner thighs. Your spouse will find you sexy in spite of your little imperfections.
Be confident of your own body and concentrate on the act, or else you will not be able to enjoy freely.
#3. Tell him your likes and dislikes
Your partner is not a mind reader. If you suffer any discomfort during the act, tell him/her, as it will help your partner to avoid such moves in the future. In addition, if there is something you want your partner to do, let him/her know that too.
#4. Handle awkward moments
Yes, there might be a few embarrassing moments as well. There can be a little mess of wetness/blood, especially after the act.
But, do not be critical and learn to handle such situations with ease. Laugh out and ignore such inevitable awkward situations.
#5. It is okay not to have sex
Many couples do not have sex on their wedding night. It is quite normal. Do not feel disappointed if you were unable to continue for any reason.
Such things are common. It is important to take make your partner comfortable first, as rest will anyway happen later.
Also Read: 8 Reasons Why You should have Sex Everyday
#6. Do not go to sleep right away
The last thing you would want on your wedding night is to sleep right after the act. It is better to cuddle up a bit before dosing off to sleep.
But even if you do not feel like talking, do tiny acts like stroking their hair, giving gentle kisses, or whispering something romantic. Complimenting your partner after the act will make them feel special.
So, here you have some important tips to keep in mind while taking your relationship with your spouse to a different level altogether. Remember to have fun as you dive into the magical world of love and romance. And in the end we would like to wish you a happy married life.