Rachel Lindsay Learned Bryan Abasolo Had Filed for Divorce 'Via Text Message': 'I Was Shocked'

The chiropractor, 44, filed for divorce on Jan. 2 and the former 'Bachelorette' star claims in a new court filing that she was "shocked" by the news

Rachel Lindsay found out Bryan Abasolo had filed for divorce via text message.

In a June 26 filing, the former Bachelorette claims that she discovered Abasolo had filed for divorce on January 2 "via text message" — and she included a screenshot of the conversation to prove it.

In documents obtained by PEOPLE, Lindsay, 39, claims that she and Abasolo, 44, "had a conversation in my kitchen during which he failed to mention that he had filed for divorce" on the same day that he eventually filed.

"Approximately 30 minutes after he left the house, he sent me a text message that simply read 'Hey ... I just wanted to let you know that I officially filed,'" Lindsay claims.

Though she knew that she and the chiropractor — who she met and got engaged to on season 21 of The Bachelorette — "were separating and would be headed toward divorce," she said she was "shocked" to be informed that he'd officially filed over text.

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She noted that their "prior conversations" had been "amicable" and the two had discussed how to navigate filing for divorce in a way that "would not attract media attention."

In the screenshot Lindsay provided, Abasolo texted her at 11:43 a.m. on Jan. 2, "Hey...I just wanted to let you know that I officially filed."

"Wait what?" she responded. Later that night, she stopped sharing her location with Abasolo, per the screenshot.

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Lindsay claims that she "tried to talk to Bryan about the divorce in order to settle this matter swiftly and amicably, but he was not interested."

"He informed me in no uncertain terms that everything must go through lawyers. He has not made any effort – reasonable or not – to resolve this matter with me," she says in the filing.

In the initial divorce filing, Abasolo cited "irreconcilable differences" as the reason for the divorce after four years of marriage. In a since-deleted post on Instagram, he called the separation a "difficult decision," as he said, "Sometimes loving yourself and your partner means you must let go."

Lindsay opened up about the divorce days later on her podcast, Higher Learning with Van Lathan and Rachel Lindsay, calling it "a difficult time."

She didn't share much but promised to "eventually" get into the details of the split. "Now is not the time," she said. "[I'm] just trying to take it day by day."

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Lindsay's June 26 filing came after Abasolo requested emergency spousal support and that his ex pay at least $75,000 for his legal fees, according to documents obtained by PEOPLE.

He called the living situation between the former couple "very awkward and strained" as they both still live in the same house, and though he wants to "move out...as soon as possible," it's not "financially feasible" for him.

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